BED’s Founding Board of Directors
GLORIA Brame, Founder, Board Chair
Dr. Gloria Brame found her way into the kink communities in 1985 and began her public activism in 1987, when she founded the first online BDSM support group in the Human Sexuality Forum of Compuserve. She is the lead author of Different Loving (1993) the first BDSM-positive book released by a major publisher. You can find all of her books on Amazon.
The first Ph.D. candidate in the U.S. to be granted a degree in BDSM/Fetish sex, she joined the American College of Sexologists and opened her very successful sex therapy practice in 2002, focusing on kink, sexual performance, and building strong relationships. Gloria has dedicated her life to helping people grow and evolve into who they really are by conquering shame, false teachings, and hopelessness. Gloria’s extensive independent research into sex science has earned her an international reputation as a thought-leader and visionary. She is one of the most frequently-quoted sex experts in the world. https://gloriabrame.com
LILY Luminous, co-leader, BDSM Organizations Committee
Lily Luminous says she’s been kinky ever since her first smell & feel of leather. She has been poly since the early
In 2003, Lily became the secretary of NLA-Austin. The next year she was asked to become the head of Member Services for SAADE (School of Austin Advanced D/s Education). She led that group as Chief Counsel from 2009 thru 2013.
Master Lily Ma’am (covered in 2012) is the Leader of Shadowhouse, a Central Texas Leather family. Her slave (since 2009) joy, is the secretary of the Austin girls of Leather and her boy (since 2013) spot is a member of
Lily Ma’am has been a judge for the Mr. Austin Leather Contest & the Tally Master for the Mr. Austin Bear Leather Contest.
She is a Lifestyle mentor, promoting consent and women’s empowerment on both sides of the slash.
Her favorite quote is by Maya Angelou – “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
RANDI Kemmler aka boy Randi, leader, Volunteers Committee
I am many things. I am not easily placed in a box. I am an educator through and through. I am shy and quiet but also outgoing and rambunctious. I am scared when I think about certain parts of my life, but I know that the fear will subside as the days move forward and I keep doing the next right thing.
Sometimes I take life too seriously, sometimes not seriously enough. Life is a pendulum and I’m along for the ride. So far, it’s a most enjoyable experience.
I am the Sponsorship Chairperson for SouthEast LeatherFest – perhaps you may have heard me mention it a time or two. I’m always looking for new sponsors, so if it’s something you’d like to consider, please drop me a line. Check out our website, www.seleatherfest.com
I have two associates degrees in Liberal Arts and a Bachelors in Social Sciences. I earned my M. Ed. In Higher Education Administration from UNCG and my passion is education. I have a wonderful dog named Lorrie and a cat named Parker. My life is better, not just because of people I have known, but also because of the fur babies that have graced my world.
I have a favorite quote that has seen me through some difficult times: “Our magnificent flaws are the very foundation of
SIR Guy
Sir Guy is a proud Brooklyn native who has been out in the New York kink scene for well over a decade. He lives in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with his slave
In addition to being a uniform enthusiast, he is a former New York City police officer and New York State certified Emergency Medical Technician who has participated in rescue efforts at Ground Zero and at Hurricane Katrina. With a lifelong dedication to serving and helping others, Sir Guy volunteers his time to supporting and educating those in the BDSM community as well, particularly other kinky People of Color. He founded The Dark Lair: BDSM Support and Education for People of Color as a safe space for BDSM education geared toward PoC and covering a wide variety of topics. He is an Emeritus Member of the Board of Directors of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), the Director of MAsT Metro New York and an Associate Member of ONYX NY/Northeast. He has presented for over 30 organizations or events across the U.S. and in Canada and was honored to deliver the keynote address at Beyond Leather in 2014, the Our Traditions Live speech at Master/slave Conference 2015, serve as head judge for the Western Canada Power Exchange Contest in 2015 and to give the keynote address at the Southeast Leather Fest (SELF) in 2017.
Sir Guy was the winner of the 2013 International Power Exchange contest, 2014 Beyond Leather Community Achievement Award and the 2005 TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Literary Contest. He is the author of a uniform themed BDSM erotic collection featuring People of Color entitled Sharp Interrogations: Erotic Tales of Uniform Discipline and more recently had the privilege of writing a chapter on the history of People of Color in consensual Master/slave relationships for the book Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave Relationships from Ancient Times to the 21st Century. Sir Guy also contributed an interview to Different Loving Too.
Both in and out of the BDSM community, Sir Guy aims to educate others, give back to all of his communities, and inspire others to do the same. He believes that while members of any community are diverse and unique that by finding commonality, utilizing those individual strengths to build each other up, and standing together as a united whole, a group is made stronger and better as is each individual member.
UNCLE Abdul
Uncle Abdul (or just plain Unc’) is an honored member of the Bay Area BDSM and M/s Community since 1980. He helped found and operate the South Bay Spot club in San Jose, California for nearly 4 years until he had to step down to do engineering consulting work.
He’s also a presenter on E-Play/Stim and other topics for over 25 years. He is the author of Juice – Electricity for Pleasure and Pain – the renowned primer of Electrical Play and Stim. He is a winner of the Arse Elektronika Lifetime Achievement Award. You can read his smart, sobering and wonderfully quirky essay, WODO: Wisdom of a Dungeon Owner in the BED Library.
As a retired electrical engineer with over 50 years of experience in electrical safety and design, he still does presentations across the country and maintains a very busy consulting practice. Because of his knowledge in the field, he has been called on to testify as an Expert Witness in several E-Play/Stim court cases. Now he’s further contributing to the Community by serving on the BED Team.
In Memorium, Forever in Our Hearts — Will Brame and Queen Raini
We light a candle for two Board members
WILLIAM Brame
b. 1960 – d. 2021
William Brame was destined for odd employment and peculiar occupations. He stubbornly persisted in toe-walking to the beat of a different drummer. His devotion to his wife and slave were unparalleled, as was his wit and intelligence.
He was variously a muleskinner, logger, carpenter, landscaper, bouncer, researcher, archaeologist, writer, editor
He wrote smut for Bob Guccione and edited for the Turner Tomorrow Awards in the 1980s. Books include Different Loving and Different Loving Too, written with his wife, Gloria Brame. He also co-authored a novel, Children of the Ice (under the pen name, Charlotte Prentiss), with Charles Platt. He co-hosted BDSM events at the Vault (NYC) and Paddles (NYC) in the early 1990s, and gave presentations, workshops and demos at kink conferences from 1989 to the early 2000s.
Will is missed passionately by his life-partners. He is forever with us in love.
QUEEN Raini, co-leader, BDSM Organizations Committee
b. 1967 – d. 2019
Queen Raini was a Dominant Leather Woman/Master/Queen with 30 + years of experience in the lifestyle. Her personal goal was to promote diversity and education amongst kink and leather communities.
Her passions included helping kinksters to add sanity and creativity to any scene, helping crossdressers discover and experience their “Inner Diva”, and initiating/mentoring the curious and newbies into the lifestyle, all in a safe and non-judgmental way.
Raini firmly believed there is no “one true way” to be kinky. No matter what steps you may take, you are on your personal Leather Journey.
A devoted wife to her husband James Rawley, a wonderful friend, and a brilliant, playful woman, Raini is deeply missed in Her communities and by everyone who had the privilege of being close to her.