Added Some Bisexuality

Although not strictly a BDSM/kink-related subject, I decided to donate my recent blog essay to the Teachable Topics section of the reading library. It astonishes me that people still neg bisexuals and saddens me that the vast majority of bisexual people are closeted.

While so many of us in the Scene are bi, queer, poly, pansexual, and otherwise willing to play across orientations, bisexuality is barely discussed and often dismissed, as if it’s still a taboo even in our allegedly radical circles. Nothing sex should be, imho. If BDSMers can’t talk freely about sex that makes other people uncomfortable, where exactly will that dialogue happen? Academia? Don’t hold your breath.

I wanted to share some scientific insights with educators here on how bi is really the norm. I hope kink/BDSM educators will start talking more about bisexual, and homosexual, and heterosexual, and ace and sapiosexual, and all the other sexual identities that mix and match with BDSM orientations. Every community needs to feel included and respected — whether that means welcoming them into your space or understanding if they choose to create their own.

As I was working on the blog post, I thought wistfully of Brenda Howard, and wondered whether she would be pleased or disappointed at the strides that we’ve made since she first made her mark. I dedicated my piece to her memory, with a link to the Advocate’s tribute to her memory and work. She was a beautiful woman and tragic loss to the fight for sexual freedom.